Our amazing community is enriched with a wealth of incredible people who have embraced and supported the world of all things trans. Some have pioneered products, some have been and continue to be on the front lines of activism and some have simply given us safe spaces to party….and so much more! They are ALL important and have contributed to the progress that the trans community has made over the years. In my 21 years of being a part of this community, I have met some phenomenal people and through a series of very short interviews I intend to introduce you to some of them.
Who are you and what do you do?
I am Dafni Cocó and I was born in 1985 in Barcelona, Spain.
I’m a professional image consultant for the transgender and crossdressing community and the creator of Dafni Girls in Spain.
My Dafni Girls studios are dedicated to the beauty and enjoyment of the crossdressing world and all of our spaces are private, cozy, enclosed and fascinating. My studios are designed to externalise the femininity and the beauty of self-love. We are always focusing our attention on loving our people, making them feel comfortable with us and with the environment we offer and having fun while enjoying the infinite possibilities that the crossdressing world can provide.
I consider myself a joyful, affectionate and close person who is able to motivate people. Giving friendly support to my customers is one of my greatest strengths and in addition, I am very passionate about my business and my life as a whole.
What led you to working with the trans community?
I discovered this world 10 years ago when a person asked me to do a professional private makeup service. This person was completely unknown to me. He found on the internet because at that time, I had to self-promote my makeup services on there in order to expand my horizons and further my career. I was completely unaware of this community, and I loved it from the very first time I encountered it.
Let me tell you, it was a very delightful and rewarding experience for me. I helped my client discover her beauty and her feelings, and I contributed to putting together the pieces for what will be her journey towards a better world where life can be in absolute pleasure. She taught me this and it was truly incredible.
Then, over time, I started to meet a lot of other people like her, and that was when I knew that this was my perfect world. Now, it is my reality.
What is the best thing about working with the trans community?
In my opinion, the best thing about my job is to contribute to the happiness and well-being of my clients.
Escorting them within this lifestyle, enjoying time together them with no boundaries and loving them the way in which they deserve to be loved.
For me, it is an honour to cultivate the naturalness and the normalisation that should exist naturally. Motivating and encouraging them to consider that anything is possible if they just believe in themselves.
In a nutshell, creating together a meaning of life departing from what we feel and not from what we really are. I love the possibility of empowering them to develop their inner confidence.
If you could be anyone other than you, who would you be and why?
I would not like to be anyone else. I love my life just as it is. I have always loved it and I will love it forever. It is my life, I mean, it is my treasure, my potential, and my pleasure.
In my opinion, if you wish to be someone else, it may mean that you do not appreciate your life and if so, you may not love yourself deeply. I do admire enterprising people that help other people to accomplish their dreams.
If I were born again, I would definitely make the same choices and I would love to be myself again.
What is your number one beauty tip for trans girls?
Less is more. In my opinion, elegance is hidden between the simplicity and the purity of things.
Sometimes, we tend to exaggerate our feminine side by decorating it with too many accessories or exuberant clothes, thinking that this is the only way to enhance our feminine side. And ok, it can be fine for a special occasion in which we want to have fun, but femininity does not need so much.
There are other factors such as sweetness, delicacy, simplicity, or the simple expression of feeling comfortable with your feminine side and externalising it in a pleasing and warm way. Less is more.
And lastly….why do you love The Boudoir London?
More than loving The Boudoir London, what I absolutely love is the person who created it, Jodie Lynn.
The person who has devoted her time and over two decades of her life to people who need it, and through The Boudoir London, transgender people have received so much support and happiness.
It is essential to admire the effort that all of us, businesses dedicated to this community, continuously make. Sharing our lifestyles, supporting each other, and giving value to our profession is of main importance is this world which is not an easy one.
We must continue creating “sparkling dreams” for all the trans and crossdressing girls who desire it. Jodie please, don’t stop ever! Keep on creating and having fun, you are magical. Thank you very much for letting me express what I feel and being able to share a piece my world in a little corner of your great world. Dafni Cocó.